FORGIVENESS ORANGTUA DALAM MENYIKAPI PERISTIWA KEHAMILAN REMAJA DI LUAR NIKAH DI NUSA TENGGARA TIMUR

Monika Indriyanti Putri Claudia; Diana Aipipidely; Mardian  Artati; R Pasifikus  Ch; Wijaya Wijaya

doi:10.51878/paedagogy.v6i1.8254

Authors

Monika Indriyanti Putri Claudia Universitas Nusa Cendana
Diana Aipipidely Universitas Nusa Cendana
Mardian Artati Universitas Nusa Cendana
R Pasifikus Ch Universitas Nusa Cendana
Wijaya Wijaya Universitas Nusa Cendana

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.51878/paedagogy.v6i1.8254

Keywords:

Pengampunan Orang Tua, Kehamilan Remaja, Budaya NTT, Resiliensi Keluarga, Coping Sosial

Abstract

This study aims to understand the process of parental forgiveness toward teenage daughters who experience out-of-wedlock pregnancy in East Nusa Tenggara (NTT), Indonesia. This region is known for its patriarchal culture that highly values family honor, making teenage pregnancy a heavily stigmatized social issue. While many studies have examined the impact of teenage pregnancy, few have explored how parents, particularly in the local cultural context, process their emotions and forgive their children. Using a qualitative approach with Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis (IPA), this study involved five parents who were interviewed to explore their experiences. The findings reveal five key stages in the forgiveness process: (1) early detection of pregnancy through parental intuition, (2) initial emotional reactions such as anger and disappointment, (3) transition toward unconditional love and protective actions, (4) social and spiritual support that strengthens acceptance, and (5) varying attitudes toward the male counterpart involved. This study fills a gap in the literature regarding the emotional dynamics of parents facing teenage pregnancy in Eastern Indonesia and provides insights for culturally sensitive counseling practices in handling similar cases.

ABSTRAK

Penelitian ini bertujuan untuk memahami proses pemaafan orangtua terhadap anak remaja yang hamil di luar nikah di Nusa Tenggara Timur (NTT), Indonesia. Daerah ini dikenal dengan budaya patriarkal yang sangat menjunjung tinggi kehormatan keluarga, sehingga kehamilan remaja menjadi masalah sosial yang sangat distigmatisasi. Meskipun banyak penelitian yang meneliti dampak kehamilan remaja, belum banyak yang membahas bagaimana orangtua, khususnya dalam konteks budaya lokal, memproses perasaan mereka dan memberi maaf kepada anak mereka. Dengan pendekatan kualitatif menggunakan metode Analisis Fenomenologi Interpretatif (IPA), penelitian ini melibatkan lima orangtua yang diwawancarai untuk menggali pengalaman mereka. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan lima tahap penting dalam proses pemaafan: (1) deteksi awal kehamilan melalui intuisi orangtua, (2) reaksi emosional awal seperti marah dan kecewa, (3) transisi menuju kasih sayang tanpa syarat dan tindakan perlindungan, (4) dukungan sosial dan spiritual yang memperkuat penerimaan, dan (5) sikap yang bervariasi terhadap pihak laki-laki yang terlibat. Penelitian ini mengisi kekosongan literatur mengenai dinamika emosional orangtua dalam menghadapi kehamilan remaja di Indonesia Timur, serta memberikan wawasan bagi praktik konseling yang lebih sensitif terhadap budaya dalam menangani kasus serupa.

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