HUBUNGAN REJECTION SENSITIVITY DENGAN SELF-ESTEEM PADA PENGGUNA APLIKASI KENCAN ONLINE
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https://doi.org/10.51878/paedagogy.v6i4.15848Keywords:
aplikasi kencan online, sensitivitas penolakan, harga diri, dewasa awalAbstract
Online dating apps are one of the platforms individuals use to find partners and build interpersonal relationships. While using them, individuals may experience various forms of rejection, such as not getting a match, not receiving a response, unmatching, ghosting, or blocking. This study aims to examine the relationship between rejection sensitivity and self-esteem among online dating app users. This study employed a quantitative approach with a correlational design. The participants consisted of 402 online dating app users aged 18–24, selected using purposive sampling. Data were collected using the Rejection Sensitivity Questionnaire (RSQ) and the Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale (RSES) and analyzed using the Pearson Product-Moment correlation test. The results revealed a significant negative relationship between rejection sensitivity and self-esteem among online dating app users (r = -0.512; p < 0.001). These findings indicate that higher rejection sensitivity is associated with lower self-esteem, while lower rejection sensitivity is associated with higher self-esteem. This study is expected to contribute to the understanding of psychological factors related to self-esteem among online dating app users.
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Aplikasi kencan online menjadi salah satu ruang yang digunakan individu untuk mencari pasangan dan membangun hubungan interpersonal. Dalam penggunaannya, individu dapat mengalami berbagai bentuk penolakan, seperti tidak mendapatkan match, tidak memperoleh respons, unmatching, hingga ghosting maupun blocking. Penelitian ini bertujuan untuk mengetahui hubungan antara rejection sensitivity dan self-esteem pada pengguna aplikasi kencan online. Penelitian ini menggunakan pendekatan kuantitatif dengan desain korelasional. Partisipan dalam penelitian ini berjumlah 402 pengguna aplikasi kencan online berusia 18–24 tahun yang diperoleh menggunakan teknik purposive sampling. Data dikumpulkan menggunakan skala Rejection Sensitivity Questionnaire (RSQ) dan Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale (RSES). Data dianalisis menggunakan uji korelasi Pearson Product Moment. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan terdapat hubungan negatif yang signifikan antara rejection sensitivity dan self-esteem pada pengguna aplikasi kencan online (r = -0,512; p < 0,001). Temuan ini menunjukkan bahwa semakin tinggi rejection sensitivity yang dimiliki pengguna aplikasi kencan online, semakin rendah self-esteem-nya. Sebaliknya, semakin rendah rejection sensitivity, semakin tinggi self-esteem. Hasil penelitian ini diharapkan dapat memberikan kontribusi dalam memahami faktor psikologis yang berkaitan dengan self-esteem pada pengguna aplikasi kencan online.
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